tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post7127975676440986900..comments2023-10-26T09:15:10.941-04:00Comments on The Miller Mix: Saying noKelly Millerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12738542739547858853noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-25613121458983235372010-05-24T20:05:49.265-04:002010-05-24T20:05:49.265-04:00this is absolutely beautiful!this is absolutely beautiful!SuziCatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04025931724313344438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-27032951953513672522010-05-21T22:45:15.848-04:002010-05-21T22:45:15.848-04:00Kelly, you have ROCKED IT this Five for Ten. I hav...Kelly, you have ROCKED IT this Five for Ten. I have loved each and every one of your posts. And what I love best about this one is the use of the phrase "averagely hectic." I hear ya, sister. And you've put a smile on my face.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13969567138255166449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-34323516889125534322010-05-21T17:41:00.686-04:002010-05-21T17:41:00.686-04:00amen, amen, AMEN!amen, amen, AMEN!Jamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01041679649470035426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-42908513207463248292010-05-20T13:48:57.715-04:002010-05-20T13:48:57.715-04:00This is indeed a very captivating post, full of ve...This is indeed a very captivating post, full of very strong emotions and images. The words you use to describe why it is that saying no is so important to you, are words we all need to remember and teach our children before they reach that vulnerable age when wanting to conform can make us do things we really do not want to do.One Photohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05793386254564806126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-70749443812425261192010-05-19T14:04:00.452-04:002010-05-19T14:04:00.452-04:00This post captivated me. Learning how to be that k...This post captivated me. Learning how to be that kind of "No Girl" took everything I had, too. I am so glad to have found you during 5/10. I really look forward to reading more of your posts.ckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14381988041662787294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-48713866123248657292010-05-19T13:40:44.058-04:002010-05-19T13:40:44.058-04:00You, Kelly, are a phenomenal woman.
Well said.
Ve...You, Kelly, are a phenomenal woman. <br />Well said.<br />Very well said.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07874897254332872367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-73758403619408542492010-05-19T12:27:33.189-04:002010-05-19T12:27:33.189-04:00i just wanted to chime in and agree with all the w...i just wanted to chime in and agree with all the words here. yours and the other commenters. i really was touched by this post. thank you for being brave enough to say no, and to share that with us. there is a lot to be learned there.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01796146545250391834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-20970688007289317472010-05-19T09:47:02.818-04:002010-05-19T09:47:02.818-04:00Darn, girl. You rock. I love the honesty and the...Darn, girl. You rock. I love the honesty and the attitude. You've got to check out Rachel Simmons The Curse of the Good Girl -- but then again, you could have written it.Launahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10176057306158844399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-5040507818478601682010-05-19T07:57:09.640-04:002010-05-19T07:57:09.640-04:00Really, really enjoyed this. I think all women sho...Really, really enjoyed this. I think all women should read it for all of their own reasons. It's rich with self-love, but what's even more important is that you acknowledged what it took you to get there. We all need to learn that. "Confident ways, heart singing," how spectacular is that!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-56116279065654379012010-05-19T00:48:09.622-04:002010-05-19T00:48:09.622-04:00Sorry about the hard years you experienced, but I&...Sorry about the hard years you experienced, but I'm happy to hear you finally realized who you were as a person, and could say no.<br /><br />I'm also so happy that you have the right reasons to say YES now! Great writing!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11399926718607480134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-50911016475798211662010-05-19T00:20:40.078-04:002010-05-19T00:20:40.078-04:00Lovely and powerful. It's inspiring to read h...Lovely and powerful. It's inspiring to read how you have healed and grown strong and soulful out of early wounds. That wrong attention can hurt body, mind and self-esteem, but that radiant spirit that you see in the mirror has obviously never been touched but by those who truly love you.www.privilegeofparenting.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10645668995297703791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-47511158673750474012010-05-19T00:15:24.167-04:002010-05-19T00:15:24.167-04:00and by the way, I FINALLY added you to my blog rol...and by the way, I FINALLY added you to my blog roll. Sorry to take so long to do so, but I'm finally taking the time to do some blog reorganizing this week!ChefDruckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01581859830585809291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-58592888300194467092010-05-19T00:14:24.172-04:002010-05-19T00:14:24.172-04:00Kelly,
This post really, really spoke to me. I too...Kelly,<br />This post really, really spoke to me. I too had a problem of saying yes to way too many boys, trying to fill the void of teenage angst. I've only just begun writing about it, nowhere nearly as eloquently as you just did. Thank you for writing this beautiful piece and having the courage to share it. Although the strength of the no section of the post hooked me, the beauty of your yes moments will remain with me.<br /><br />VanessaChefDruckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01581859830585809291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-78855155678704524972010-05-18T22:55:57.351-04:002010-05-18T22:55:57.351-04:00It takes a strong woman to say No. And and even st...It takes a strong woman to say No. And and even stronger one to know when to say yes, and who to say it too. Beautiful post.Allison @ Alli 'n Sonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17046247622825649638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-70725618475178667362010-05-18T21:55:00.994-04:002010-05-18T21:55:00.994-04:00Thank you, everyone, for showing such empathy and ...Thank you, everyone, for showing such empathy and understanding for my struggle with no. I was thinking about it further and realized that, for me, telling someone NO invited conflict and possible hurt. I avoided that all cost (and still have a hard time sitting with conflict), but I've learned that I will survive whatever comes my way.Kelly Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12738542739547858853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-69022579014236654152010-05-18T20:48:22.786-04:002010-05-18T20:48:22.786-04:00Just beautiful, Kelly.
Both are necessary, and sho...Just beautiful, Kelly.<br />Both are necessary, and should be basked in with the courage that it takes to say yes, and to say no.Corinne Cunninghamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07604810312185816792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-40099318347821307772010-05-18T20:09:40.726-04:002010-05-18T20:09:40.726-04:00I really appreciate the way you've captured th...I really appreciate the way you've captured the nuances of both yes and no. Too often I fall into the trap of black and white (e.g. I need to say yes more often; I need to learn how to say no), but you're absolutely right: there are ways we need to include both in our lives, at the right times and in the right ways.<br /><br />Thank you, Kelly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-35198006411569269962010-05-18T19:52:54.732-04:002010-05-18T19:52:54.732-04:00Ah. Kelly. Magnificent.
Yes to all these no's...Ah. Kelly. Magnificent.<br /><br />Yes to all these no's that allow you to own yourself fully in a more authentic yes. This is quite beautiful.<br /><br />I think you've found wisdom far earlier than most of us.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-29816635785751912782010-05-18T19:10:39.767-04:002010-05-18T19:10:39.767-04:00I could have written this post myself, only I stil...I could have written this post myself, only I still struggle with some of those things you spoke of. I have to admit though that it is a totally different kind of rush having said no to something worthy of saying no to. I am going to keep working at it. It's getting easier.The Drama Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11989820542966245871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-40184474467177602792010-05-18T18:08:34.732-04:002010-05-18T18:08:34.732-04:00This was so touching. And you made me realize tha...This was so touching. And you made me realize that NO is not always the "easy way out" the "lazy way". NO can also be the wise choice. The safe choice. Thank you for opening my eyes to this Kelly. I think I may have been a little short sighted in my words.beccahttp://www.dramaformama.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-45579563961418342932010-05-18T16:45:34.515-04:002010-05-18T16:45:34.515-04:00What a beautiful post. It was a very hard lesson f...What a beautiful post. It was a very hard lesson for me to learn- when to say yes and when to say no.Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-23530468021573483572010-05-18T16:43:31.959-04:002010-05-18T16:43:31.959-04:00Saying no is often a good thing. Sounds like you h...Saying no is often a good thing. Sounds like you have learned a lot.That is a good thing, learning and being able to share that. Not to mention the obvious benefits of being able to take advantage of what you have learned.Jack Steinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625864271071630940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-74562503231905685942010-05-18T16:31:05.674-04:002010-05-18T16:31:05.674-04:00Good for you! No, NO, NO, NNNOOOO!Good for you! No, NO, NO, NNNOOOO!lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16817782572805337451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-49392241075786813812010-05-18T16:28:33.255-04:002010-05-18T16:28:33.255-04:00Kelly, reading these words "Yes to anyone who...Kelly, reading these words "Yes to anyone who promised, pretended, to love me," made me pause. Maybe we should teach our children to say yes and no. Yes when it is something that will advance their dreams (college) and no when it may potentially hurt them. A valuable lesson, indeed.amber_mtmchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17871256362646081536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16484482.post-45393061561832055102010-05-18T14:34:21.048-04:002010-05-18T14:34:21.048-04:00Sigh! Loved every word. Related to them and unders...Sigh! Loved every word. Related to them and understood immediately for your word of NO. No is a good word, too. :)Alitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09470698206904719203noreply@blogger.com